Laid Bare

‘If you’ve had your heart broken/been on the dating scene/had sex, read Laid Bare. Unputdownable.’ Kerri Sackville

‘A great read. Go out there and get it, especially if you are a newly single dad as well. It might teach you a thing or two about what to do and what not to do.’ David Campbell

‘X-rated, honest and compelling, this is a must-read.’ Men’s Health

‘An excellent writer and storyteller … compelling reading. Fink’s honesty is admirable, his story bittersweet and his experiences will make the reader squirm.’ The Daily Telegraph

‘One notable exception [to the string of unsatisfying books and articles about sex in the digital age] was Jesse Fink’s harrowing memoir, Laid Bare, in which he chronicled his sex-addled online dating adventures as a newly single father. The difference was Fink readily admitted he behaved as a ruthless cad towards the women he met and his self-loathing gave his book an authenticity sorely lacking in similar works.’ The Sydney Morning Herald

‘Fink opens his deep wounds for inspection, his engaging style pitch perfect to document both his foolhardy actions and his extreme vulnerability.’ The Townsville Bulletin 
 
‘Like Penthouse Letters with post-orgamic guilt … one man’s journey into the “gratification now” of the internet while slowly accepting his complicity in his divorce, before his sanity is salvaged by the unconditional love of his daughter. An engrossing read.’ The Herald Sun
 
‘A great book.’ Penthouse

‘Fink’s brutally honest, tell-all memoir about his adventures in online dating is worth reading as much for his personal journey from committed family man to ruthless cad to devoted dad as for the missives it issues from the frontlines of modern love … [Laid Bare] offers some incisive commentary on modern life – including the observation that there are serious pitfalls to having too much choice.’ ABC’s The Drum

‘An extraordinary depiction of how sex, even too much sex, can be a normal and healthy part of coping and grief in the life of a man.’ Dr David Ley, author, The Myth of Sex Addiction 
 
When Jesse Fink’s wife tells him she’s leaving him after a 10-year relationship and he discovers there’s another man involved, his world falls apart completely. But, thanks to internet dating, a handsome writer with a flair for language and a more-than-fleeting resemblance to Robert Downey Jr need never be lonely. The women of Sydney’s online world embrace him with open arms and Jesse returns their affections. 
But while the thrill of casual sex with countless women in Australia and beyond (New York, Boston, San Francisco and Los Angeles) gives a devastated man the reassurance he needs to rebuild his shattered ego, something vital is missing. Jesse can’t move past his conviction that his real life is with his wife – his first love – and their young daughter.
Fink tells a complex and nuanced story about the challenges modern men face in coping with relationship breakdowns, loss, divorce, mental-health issues and shared custody. 
Laid Bare is Jesse Fink’s startlingly honest, highly personal account of emotional and mental oblivion after divorce, his experiences as an accidental ‘player’ and the long journey back to a meaningful relationship with his now teenaged daughter.